11 years later... (Well, technically about 20)

11 years ago today Mr NC and I married. We dated in high school almost 20 years ago, but I guess we had to "sow our oats" or "spread our wings" before we were smart enough to realize we were meant to be...

So what has 11 years of marriage done for us, personally, and for our relationship?

Wow. About a year ago we were in the typical marriage "rut". Not a bad thing, by any means, but with 3 kids and jobs and all the other things we do, our relationship was typically on the back burner while we focused on everything else. Once a week obligatory marital sex, occasional conversation.... Don't get me wrong, our marriage was strong, we were still in love, we just let life get in the way.

Then we had our first MFM, completely spontaneous, and that led me to research the whole swinging concept and found Swingers Board last August.

So where are we now?
Sooo in love!
Our relationship is on the front burner, always. Our communication is amazing. We can't go 3 hours without talking/texting/IM/email.
We talk about everything all day long, related to swinging or not.
Swinging is not on the top of our list, but we try to fit it in when we can
We have date nights again (woo-hoo!)
We hate when we go more than 2 days without sex
I found an inner bi-sexual side I never knew about. WOW!
I love seeing him with another woman
Went to a strip club together. Why didn't we do this sooner?

But what swinging has done for me personally has only enhanced everything WE are doing:
I dress sexier again
I now watch what I eat, now more than ever wanting to get back down to my wedding weight
I put highlights in my hair this week. Highlights! I've never, ever, ever colored my hair. (gray was poking through, ewww)
I remembered how much I love giving Mr NC pleasure! Especially blow-jobs, 69, and many new positions. Wow, were we really in that big of a sexual rut?

But most importantly, I remembered how much I love sex with Mr NC. Forget the once a week marital sex, I can't get enough!


We're still venturing out, that's for sure. We are certainly not veterans, but we are gaining experiences when we feel it's right. Just talking about our fantasies, what we want to do, what we like to do, has really made our marriage that much stronger, closer, and amazing.

Happy Anniversary Mr NC. I love ya stud-of-mine!